There’s little doubt that in our modern world, a lot of people prefer the idea of casual, online sex. As there’s no physical intimacy involved in online sex, and no obvious risk of sexually transmitted diseases to either partner online sex (or ‘sexting’, as it’s also known) has become a popular choice. But as there’s also little scientific data available to back up the claims of some people (who claim that online love making is safer than conventional sex), some people do have concerns about online lovemaking and the impact it can have on their sex lives.
Physical dangers from online dating are few, although there are some real concerns about a lack of intimacy in many relationships. It’s not uncommon to find a lack of emotional closeness in relationships where the men (and sometimes even the women) aren’t willing to make any sort of effort to be physically intimate with each other. In fact, some surveys have shown that couples who are physically intimate often end up having sex too soon, and don’t feel any closer to one another. This leads to arguments over who is spending too much time together and how much emotional time they should be spending together in a relationship.
The main problem with not having physical intimacy in a relationship is that you lose that emotional connection that is so important in a relationship. Without it, there’s a big chance that the relationship will suffer, and it’s easy to see why some people would find this to be a major concern. If you worry about the impact that online lovemaking may have on your relationship, it’s a good idea to start trying it yourself – it may be something that you enjoy.
There are also some psychological aspects to take into account when considering the relationship between online sex and relationships. Because the internet is a virtual world, there’s no face-to-face contact between the partners in any way. For some people, this may mean that the emotional connections that they make online may not last – that there’s very little real ‘time’ that the relationship actually takes place in. There’s also a tendency to put too much emphasis on the ’emotional’ side of the relationship in a relationship – where the focus tends to be on how your partner feels when you are speaking to him/her, and what he/she feels in relation to you. rather than what you do.
If you are thinking of taking part in online ‘fishing’ games, or other online ‘spying’ activities, it’s important to make sure that you don’t put too much focus on the emotional side of relationships when you engage in online ‘fishing’ games. Because there’s no face-to-face interaction with the person that you are spying on, it may not be possible for you to really connect emotionally with them. And this may lead to problems in your relationship.
If you don’t feel like you can talk to your partner about your concerns, then you shouldn’t be sharing your intimate feelings online in any way. If they don’t like the way that you talk to them – or if they don’t get comfortable enough with your attitude – then you should think twice before you start sharing anything else in the ‘romantic’ realm. One of the best ways to handle the relationship is to stop communicating altogether. And if this isn’t possible, consider talking about it with your partner in a more ‘conventional’ fashion, to make sure that they’re comfortable with the situation.
When the relationship takes off with online lovemaking, and there’s a lot of physical intimacy and time spent in the ‘lovemaking’ area, it may not be possible for your partner to understand that there’s some difference between the two. If they do, you may want to start putting more emphasis on your emotional side of relationships, and this may mean that they don’t feel as comfortable having the physical intimacy with you as you feel with them. So when the ‘romantic’ side of your relationship takes off, you’ll need to ensure that you have a good understanding of what is normal for both of you in order to avoid problems in the relationship.
